Codependent No More : How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie "This book is good for people who find themselves depressed and needing some insight on why they feel the way they do. After reading this book the other book by Melody Beattie "Beyond Codepedency" will help you fix the codependent problem. These books will help anyone who is dealing with an alcoholic relationship or any other dependent relationship. If you find yourself caretaking all the time, ie: thinking or feeling responsible for other people, feel it is your responsiblity to help other people solve their problems, feel needy people are always attracted to you, and feeling unappreciated or used; or you have weak boundaries with the people in your life; you have dependency issues; poor communication; and low self-worth- you are codependent. I didn't think I was, but this book laied my life out perfectly. If you are feeling crazy for the way you are feeling read this book and you will understand why you are feeling the way you are. It is normal it is just you are a codependent person and you need to fix that."
Codependents' Guide to the 12 Steps by Melody Beattie "There are many books out there on recovery; and after many yrs in recovery, some of us own most of those books! This is absolutely the best one I have come across as far as the steps go. Its format of explanation and "getting to the heart of the matter" in the steps, can apply to everyones journey, regardless of which program they are in. This book will enhance everyones recovery program as well as their spiritual path, because it hits the basics and gets to the roots of all healing and growth in a way we can all relate to."
Intervention : How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help
: A Step-By-Step Guide for Families of Chemically Dependent
Vernon E. Johnson This one gets right to the point in teaching,
advising and coaching through an intervention in chemical dependency
(alcohol, drugs). The advice is sound and rings true throughout. A
light is shown into the darkness of the disease and it's effects on
everyone, friends, family, co-workers and employers. With 20 million
addicted people and a minimum of 4 others being affected by them,
this book could serve as an eye-opener for a lot of people. This
nugget only takes about an hour to read.
Getting Them Sober : You Can Help! by Toby Rice Drews "For
simplicity in presentation the book is written in the form of the
sober wife being married to an alcoholic. Substitute he, she,
partner, lover, best friend or whatever and you have a practical
guide with sound advice on any topic typically encountered in the
living with an alcoholic household. The book is written in short
chapters that quickly identify situations and offer practical advice
for how to deal with them. Unlike books that offer textbook
discussion of what alcoholism is, this book deals with how
alcoholism affects you and how you can change to improve your life.
It neither advises you to continue living with or to leave your
loved one. It does present options and suggestions to deal with your
situation. In the process of self improvement, you'll find more
happiness despite your surroundings. And ultimately, your actions
may even drive your loved one to get sober. This book is a must for
anyone living with an alcoholic."